Lesson 4 - INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS: THE IMPORTANCE OF THE" GROUP "
The social life began as a teenager living in the age requirement and need in the natural search of the independent status of our society, technologically advanced, prevents placing the young in a marginal position and dependency continues to the adult world, which, in this way becomes frustrating for him, because of tensions and internal conflicts that lead to antisocial or aggressive behavior and (juvenile delinquency), or avoiding social contact, isolation characterized by attitudes of introspection, research compensatory status of youth, creating a world staff and fantastic.
It can therefore understand how this growing social life, during adolescence, this increasingly felt need to be part of a group, to be accepted by their peers, it is not causal or minor.
Before going further in the speech, because we believe it is useful to clarify the independent status in the culture is denied the teenager.
"The moment when an individual reaches adult status depends on the particular company in which he lives" (G. Lutte).
In primitive societies, for example, that achievement is the result of physical maturity, advanced civilization in the mind the moment when the young adult is considered lasts.
"This is required by the greater complexity of adult status, which requires more preparation time and is made possible by the longer duration of life and economic situation of the society in which the productive work of adolescents is not only necessary for the community, but it can also be a unwelcome competition for adults.
This delay in recognizing the social maturity to the young is therefore a prerequisite to the progress and survival of a society in piiù perfected. "(G. Lutte).
However, the extension of adolescence is inevitably in such a way as to cause various difficulties caused by the "status" ambiguous and changing the teenager in today's society.
"No one knows exactly what are your duties and rights "(G. Lutte).
no coincidence that the groups of teenagers are social in nature: their conversations relate in particular to problems of social adjustment than those that are most troubling them.
The first fundamental feature of adolescent peers is thus to better satisfy or compensate for demands not met the "status" independent. This explains the orientation anti-adult adolescent who sees adults as representatives of a privileged caste that denies what they aspire and therefore rejects those norms and values \u200b\u200bprevailing propostigli as the goals of creating maturity as a source of status, a "subculture" opposite teen with the general and adult, but not without a certain conformity occurred in several ways: in the way of speaking and dress, preferences, in opinions, in prejudice.
"It is already well known that the typical adolescent is a critical phase, marked by a series of conflicts, tensions, doubts, and so on. But in this case highlights the inability of society to help young people to fit in it (as ritardala their assumption of responsibility that we know to be a source of gratification for the adult) or even favoring the ambiguity of their self-evaluation by requiring them contradictory identifications with the state of childhood, and with that their adulthood: in this sense can understand the trend of association between them and the formation of a sub-culture of their opposition, if not complete denial of the adult world "(P. Bertolini).
However, the adolescent contempt for the adult world is really contempt for something ardently desired, but impossible to obtain.
"In essence, members of the group take a certain type of organization and a certain set of ideals and objectives that are the same as the adult society "(G. Lutte).
independence from adults stems from their own development of forms of action that would allow those ideals.
fact, just the teenager as an adult can enter into the adult world, he immediately disappears in any attitude of opposition or scorn.
It 'obvious that he does not consider its final status in the group, but the lives temporarily.
"The group is, is but a" ersatz ", a surrogate for what is wanted, the status in the adult world" (G. Lutte).
However, the group is not only a solution to the deprivation of the independent status so that the adolescent finds a sense of social identity, but it responds to other needs and the needs of this age. First, give the guy
experience of teaching social collaboration with peers and to address all the problems of social life in full equality with the other members of the group, developing a sense of friendship in this age group around which condenses the life of the report.
is believed generally that the need for friendship is toghether, adolescents, need to know.
"The group is also an association for Conoco better themselves, to compete with others.
psychologists maintain that the conquest of their own identity on the relationship with others is essential" (R. Zavala - F. Montuschi) . Therefore
group life through a mutual exchange with others is not a continuous set against giving way to each of us to understand who we really are, to know our true entity.
"The self-analytic attitude seems to lose its effectiveness if the boy is unable to carry out more intensely in the presence of another person" (R. Zavala - F. Montuschi).
"Being in two very different psychological situation is a very comfortable and the one where one is alone" (G. Petter).
The teenager loves to trust and then give vent to his inner conflicts, so that if he feels unappreciated at home, can be found in loving advice, approval, or even critical always in conditions of equality.
"The fellow with whom he enters into a bond of friendship in this case becomes for him a sort of alter ego: one part as a continuation and completion of his personality (so as to share their desires, its concerns, its emotions), the other is a being in which he reflects in a certain way, a being whose responses place him at all times be able to assess the quality of its judgments and the quality, the meaning and scope of their actions "(G. Petter).
The teenager then living in the group a series of new compensatory experiences of those states of anxiety, indecision, uncertainty characteristic periods of transition when you change your way of thinking and acting in which the support of the other satisfies the need to preserve or recover a sense of security, have someone accompany him in all those situations in which the action adult has voluntarily left aside.
Thanks to the support of the adolescent group began a gradual emancipation of the family: to define the group for the right of self-determining rules of conduct he says their autonomy, precisely because it is no different from his peers.
This would imply a transfer of affective valence: When expanding social relationships, the adolescent moves away emotionally from family and research new sources of affection.
functions of the group as a whole, it can therefore understand how important it has in adolescent development, "in primitive societies, in fact, even in civilized societies-type agriculture, such groups exist for young people to participate in community life and were quickly integrated into the world of work "(G. Lutte).
Freedom of choice not only individual but also answer the need for independence of new experiences, the discovery of their social status, autonomy, integration with others, defense of frustration, the guilt and anxiety, life group clearly favors that the socialization process of adaptation to the environment or in a vision of social antiegoistica based on collaboration, on the understanding and mutual respect.
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